Bad Days Happen To Us All
After I read a couple of posts from people saying “if you don’t have depression, you can’t possibly understand” I thought I’d write a response …
I talk about my bad days, having post natal depression, but don’t think for one second it hasn’t crossed my mind that EVERYONE has bad days: regardless of whether or not they have depression.
Sure, depression is horrible. It’s like being stuck inside a locked house and all you want to do is get out. It’s f’ing horrible. But it doesn’t mean everyone else’s feelings or down days should be any less valid.
Because guess what: parenting is fucking hard.
Screw those people who say ‘but you wanted to be a parent” … OMG yes! But you can’t look into the future and possibly know what it’ll be like.
Early mornings. Late nights. Kids who don’t listen or understand. And no sleep.
Sleep deprivation could to be a form of torture. SERIOUSLY. It is debilitating.
Depression or not, nothing prepares you for parenthood.
The days being a parent can be overwhelming, and lonely.
My Mum is the second eldest of 9 children. So when the last was born (her sister) my Mum was 16. So she remembers very vividly what it’s like to be around newborn babies.
Yet, when she had me, it was still a surprise to her at how difficult it was.
My husband even has days where it’s pretty rough. I can’t even imagine what it’s like for him having to work, then come home to a mad house. Most day’s he’s Mr Cool, but some it must be difficult.
Whether you have a diagnosed mental illness (post natal depression) or not, parenting is still hard. A lot of us have shitty days where we want to scream and yell and cry and throw things.
Just because I’ve got depression doesn’t mean I’m the only one that gets shitty feelings. We all experience things differently, and I don’t want you to EVER feel like how you feel is any less than me, or anyone else.
Parenting isn’t easy for a lot of people, and you are not alone.