Just Two Kids?!
Often in situations where life is feeling a bit shit, and the kids are overwhelming you, people will ask “Oh how many kids do you have” and I will say “Oh I jUST have two kids”.
Well you know what – FUCK THAT.
It’s not “JUST” two kids; two can be plenty enough!
Two kids is enough to start a war between two countries.
It’s so easy for those of us who have one, or two kids, to feel like we can’t complain about how hard it is because we don’t have three or more kids – because it’s kind of a given that it will be more difficult at that stage.
Having any number of children is difficult. Whether it’s one child, or nine children (my grandmother had 9!) – each number has it’s owns difficulties. And whilst you might think “Oh because I’ve got more kids, I’ve got it harder than someone who has less” that really isn’t true.
Each of us live our own lives, and experience things differently. NO ONE experiences life the same way – and no one will ever know truly how someone else has it.
My own Mum, who had 4 kids under 5, will always tell me not to compare my two kids to her four. I always feel bad about bitching about things because I know she had it harder because she had more kids.
She ALWAYS says “Maria, it was completely different. What you have right now, I didn’t have at all, and I can see how hard it is and I don’t know how I would have coped either”
My two kids are different to my siblings and I. Our personalities are completely different. The age gap is completely different. Therefore EVERYTHING IS DIFFERENT and impossible to compare it to.
Don’t be hard on yourself when it comes to how you feel your experiences are – life is hard. Parenting is hard. It doesn’t matter how many kids you have.