Some People Just Don’t Like Me
I’m just going to jump right into it:
One of my biggest flaws is that I want everyone to like me.
So this makes me a people pleaser.
All I want to do is make people happy. I would never go out of my way to intentionally hurt someone, because it goes against Maria Rule number one: I want everyone to like me.
This journey with Happy Mum Happy Child has really pushed myself. I’m up against hundreds of people who actively don’t like me because I have an opinion about something, or the way I do something with my kids / family.
There’s also my peers within the social media community who I sometimes feel like an outsider with. More often than not people find a reason not to like me, and sometimes it does get quite upsetting.
My friends can sometimes get annoyed with me because I want everyone to like me: usually it’s at the detriment to myself.
Even if someone actively hates on me, I will still try to get them to like me. Which is ridiculous, I know.
Usually this comes from a place of wanting to prove myself to them – to get them to understand I am a good person, and that I would never intentionally hurt someone.
Too many times I have cried or been upset because someone has picked an utterly random reason to dislike me and there’s nothing I can do about it.
There are people out there right now, within the social media community who really don’t like me (for whatever reason they’ve chosen to believe) and I’ll never get a chance to “prove myself” to them.
This eats me up a little inside.
Some people may say “well if you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen”, meaning get off social media. But I do love what I do – I love talking to people from all walks of life about their experiences with parenting.
All of the “negative” things that come with it help to build my character, and to shape me as a person. Whilst at times it’s hard, overall it’s good for me to realise that some people are just not going to like me; and there’s nothing I can do about it.
Of course not every single part of my being is all about making people happy: I get road rage. I’m a bit of an aggressive driver (although that has toned down a bit since having kids).
I also make a shit tonne of mistakes in life and online, but none of it is ever to intentionally hurt or offend someone.
Even as I’m writing this right now, I really want to say “if you’ve ever been upset by anything I’ve said then I apologise because it was never my intention”.
Seriously … this people pleasing business is all consuming haha