© Maria | Happy Mum Happy Child
I DON’T HAVE TO LOVE MY BODY
Sometimes when I post online about how I “can’t wear that because I don’t want anyone seeing my belly” … or “my body has changed so much after having babies, I’m not comfortable with it yet”, a lot of people say “you need to learn to love your body”.
Well guess what – NO I DON’T. I don’t hate it, but I also don’t love it; and I don’t have to.
I actually don’t know if I’ll ever love my body, and I’m ok with that. I don’t love a lot of things in my life but I put up with them; and again I’m ok with that.
I’m ok with wearing a body suit to try and “hold myself together”. I’m ok with not wearing a bikini. I’m ok with not wearing short shorts.
PRE baby, I would never have worn those either – because it’s just not me. I’ve never been comfortable with showing too much extra skin, again, that’s just me.
My stomach has a fatty pouch which hangs over thanks to a c-section scar. It has so many stretch marks it looks like an actual truck ran over it.
People say “be proud of the body that gave your children life”. It’s not that I’m not proud of my body – I am. I think the body is an amazing thing. But I don’t have to like how it looks.
I will always work hard to be healthy and fit, but I can’t guarantee my body will fall in line. I love my mind (even though it betrays me), I love my personality, but my body ….
Coming to terms with the fact my body might never be the same as it was before babies, is not the same as loving it. I have to learn to accept it the way it is.
I don’t, however, have to love it.