It’s Their Turn
So many times I have seen Mums saying “my baby won’t sleep and I’m sick” … “I just need a break“. I have seen them struggling so badly because they are sleep deprived. I have just seen a Mum ask, on a Facebook Mum’s page, “I am so sick, and my child has only slept a couple of hours, please help, what do I do”.
If you are fortunate enough to be in a relationship, then this advice is for you: GET YOUR PARTNER, WIFE OR HUSBAND, UP.
It’s their turn.
I honestly don’t know why I don’t see Mum’s suggesting this more often. There are usually two people in a relationship. Two parents. There is absolutely no reason why the other half can’t do it.
If you’re breastfeeding, then breastfeed the baby and hand that baby over to your partner, and bugger off to bed. Bottlefeeding? Well there’s really no excuse then.
I used to do this with my kids. This parenting thing is a team effort; I fed the baby, he settles him and puts him to bed.
I struggle so badly getting back to sleep that now my husband does all the night wake ups (yes, at 2 years and 4 years old, they still wake up).
There is no reason why your husband, wife or partner can’t help out. Don’t even think about saying “but they work hard during the day, they deserve a sleep”. And you don’t?! You’re a mother 24/7 and you need your sleep MORE than they do.
It has actually been scientifically proven that women’s health is affected more by lack of sleep, than men’s.
Don’t get me wrong, us women need to play our part too, but lets be realistic – while you’re out struggling to get the baby back to sleep, your partner is blissfully unaware. Your stresses will be felt by the child too.
I remember very clearly being mega tense, upset and on the verge of tears when trying to get my girl to go to sleep. I’d call my husband out and he’d have her to sleep in less than 10 minutes. Sometimes the other person has less stress and the baby realises that and relaxes.
Either way … please please please ask for help. That is what your partner is there for.
Single parents – I am sorry that you don’t have this assistance. It is relentless for you, and I have so much respect for you and what you do.
For both solo and attached parents – it does get better. Your babies do grow up. Things change.
But please, don’t think, EVER, that you can’t get your partner up to help you. If they have an excuse every time as to why they can’t help, then I think perhaps you need to have a serious chat with them ….